Responding to little annoyances and irritations as a mom … we all do it daily.
Yet, as I sit down to write this post, I struggle to come up with at least one example of me not screwing it up royally. I have very little to offer in the successful advice category.
I’ve been wracking my brain, bugging my husband, looking back at old facebook postings, searching for something…anything that I can actually make workable and writable. And I keep coming up blank.
I was thinking about this in the shower last night and came to the conclusion that this isn’t because I am an epic failure as a mother, but more because, as a mother…and a woman…and a human being, I am wired to remember the bad and forget the good.
That is how it works, isn’t it? We can do twenty things well and screw up on one and that one will be what we carry around all day long, no?
Thus, my frustrations here. My kids annoy me frequently. I love them dearly, but they know just which buttons to push and how to really get me spinning. And most of the time, I probably do well enough with my own self-control that I don’t remember the incident because nothing came of it. Yet, all I can think about are the nights when my son won’t sleep because he works himself into a hot, scared mess and I yell at him something about waking up everyone in the house and how no one cares that he can’t sleep. Or the times I’m trying to clean the house and the kids seem bent on making it a million times worse at that very second and I again get all huffy and say something not so nice. I can get snappier than a crab in the blink of an eye.
So I have no witty anecdotes of how I did it right, saved the day, learned the secret to motherhood and went on to live happily ever after.
What I can say, is that the outcome usually depends on me. And when I can hold my tongue, things tend to go much more right than wrong. I’ve found that usually when I’m all up in arms about them having bad behavior, I should be looking in the mirror and checking my own. I’ve also learned that most of the irritations and annoyances that seem so BIG in the heat of the moment get really small after I’ve cooled down — even just a few minutes later. And here’s the biggie for me: no matter badly today went, tomorrow will be a new day. A fresh start. Full of GRACE.
For me and for my annoying kids.
Meghan and her husband are parents to two adorable children — who sometimes get under their skin.